Now that your first child is a toddler, you may be thinking about doing it all again with baby number 2! But there are some things you might want to consider first.
What is the ideal age gap?
This question is subjected to different opinions- Some mums leave 2, 3 or 4 years between births. Others want to have 3 children in 3 years. It all depends on what you want. But, whichever option you choose, do what is best for your health.
Is a bigger age gap best?
Spacing children for 3-4 years apart will let you give each child more individual attention and may reduce sibling rivalry. By the time you are taking care of the youngest one, the older one(s) will be much older and will also be able to understand that their little brother/sister needs more attention. But other mums find having a new baby after a bigger gap a real shock too, so it’s really what works best for you.
What about the expense?
Financial considerations certainly have an impact on raising a child. Can you afford to stay at home to look after a new baby, or to pay for the additional daycare if you go back to work? What is your employer’s policy on yearly maternity leave? Leaving longer between children may give you time to get your finances under control; but having babies closer could also mean you will be spending less on baby things, because your new baby can use your older child’s clothes, toys etc.
Will I love a second baby as much?
Yes, you will! When the second baby arrives, you will have so much love for him/her! For some mums, that surge of love is immediate, while for others it takes a little longer, especially if you’ve had a caesarean. This is completely normal but if you have any concerns about bonding with your baby, talk to your GP or midwife.