Confidence in Teenagers

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Confidence: the basics

Confidence is the belief that you’ll be successful in a particular situation or at a specific task.

Your confidence is related to your self-esteem, which is feeling good about yourself and feeling that you’re a worthwhile person. But having high self-esteem doesn’t mean you always feel confident.

Resilience is the ability to bounce back from difficult experiences and cope in hard or stressful situations.

Resilience and confidence are related too. If your child has resilience and learns that she can cope when life is difficult, it will leave her feeling more confident to tackle difficult situations. It’s a positive cycle.

Why building confidence is important for teenagers

Confidence helps teenagers make safe, informed decisions. Confident teenagers can avoid people and situations that aren’t necessarily right for them, and to find those that are.

If your child is confident, he’s more likely to be assertive, positive, engaged, enthusiastic and persistent.

Teenagers with low confidence are less likely to join in activities, more likely to hold back in class, and might be more willing to give in to peer influence. When a child lacks confidence, he might expect to fail at things he tries, or to not try as hard when things get tricky.

How to build confidence and resilience in your child

Here are some tips for building confidence and resilience in your child.

Be practical
Look for the practical and positive things your child can do to build skills and increase her chances of success. For example, ‘Ayo, if you want to be picked for the football team, you need to make sure you’re listening to the coach and practising between sessions’.

Give your child opportunities to try new things
When your child tries lots of different things, he’ll get to know what he’s good at and what he enjoys. He’ll also learn that most people do well at some things and not so well at others – and that’s fine. After all, we can’t all be Olympic athletes or computer geniuses.

Encourage your child to keep trying
If your child fails at something, help her understand that everyone makes mistakes. It’s OK if you can’t do something the first time you try. You could share some examples of times that you have failed, or have needed to keep trying at something.

Model confidence in your own ability
You can be a role model  when it comes to confidence. For example, you could talk to your child about what you’re going to do to try to succeed at a task. If it doesn’t work out, you can model resilience by talking about what you’re going to try next time. You can also discuss things you’ve done that might have been scary or tough for you to do, showing your child that you’ve also been through times when you’ve needed confidence.

Encourage your child to act confident
Acting confident is the first step to feeling confident. So you could suggest to your child that he makes eye contact with others, is bold, does what he loves, tries not to focus on what he can’t do, and walks away from situations he knows aren’t good.

Practise social skills
If your child feels anxious in social situations, she might need some guidance from you. For example, body posture, smiling, connecting with others, showing interest in others’ activities and joining in conversations can help build confidence.

Praise your child’s efforts
If an exam doesn’t work out the way your child hoped, try to praise your child for the effort he put into the activity. You could also suggest some ideas about what he could do differently next time.

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